Twin Flames Love Triangles: Who Is Really The Third Party?

It’s is with the greatest love I share this information with you Dear Souls.

I’m going to share my perspective about the third party karmic partner in the Twin Flame Journey. It’s the normal thing to see the Karmic partner as the third wheel to your beautiful Twin Flame love story coming true. A thorn in your side? A interfering busy body who just won’t move out of the way and let you lover come to you running. Right? 

Our souls speak a language that is beyond human understanding. A connection so rare the universe won’t let us part.”

Nikki Rowe

Step Out of the 3D Paradigm

Dear Souls now is the time where you will be tested as to how far have you actually moved out of the 3D and into 5D. Its very very easy to click on meditations and join Facebook groups about the Twin Flame Journey. To buy books and read blogs 😀 but those things can all be done while operating from the old 3d template.The Twin Flame Journey is a forceful push into operating from a more 5D template and applying those principles to this particular love story in your life. So what does the old 3D template look like in relation to romantic relationship I hear you saying? Lets take a look.

Romantic connections in the 3D:

  • Revolve around control – even possibly to the level of Narcissism
  • Thrive on Jealousy – this is on both sides
  • Lack Trust- life varies from slightly to extremely restrictive in order to appease the other.
  • Claim to own their partner- you cant do that your mine!
  • Fear – fear of being alone or losing the other person, feeling unworthy without them.
  • Scarcity -fear of being financially worse off without your partner so you stay
  • Lust- its a relationship where sex is easily accessible, comfortable and sex is the main focus.
  • Unhappiness- a majority of people are staying in connections where they are not happy at all.

Relationships that have evolved into the 5D will look more like this:

  • Knowing- that there are unseen forces that are accompanying and guiding you along a Divine path. Suddenly feeling a deep knowing in your deep soul that this is true and having no doubt.
  • Heart Centred- connections will originate from the soul and will build heart to heart connections rather than building from the ego which is a connection built on lust alone.
  • Trustworthy- trust is given in as doubts are something you have now transcended
  • Build to Last- the foundation is a secure foundation and allows a lifelong bond
  • Connection – is built on spiritual, emotional and physical making this bond much much deeper
  • Union- 5D relationships are designed to be forever they bypass the ego and the suffering of the 3D.
  • Equality- there are no power struggles, gender roles. competition etc,

Lets look at this comparison in much more details in another post.

Jealousy is a No No No

Jealous being a energy which is anchored in the 3D should not be rearing its ugly head anywhere near you if you have indeed started to align with 5D templates. If you have still feelings of jealous please address as a matter of urgency as this is going to be a major block to your Union. Jealous has actually no affect on your Twin or his/her current partner it will only hurt you and block your flow of love and blessings. First we have to understand that to release jealousy we must first experience jealousy, we must also acknowledge that feelings of jealousy are a trigger to let us know that there is healing work to be done. This pain is in fact your blessing and this will become a repeating theme but a necessary one for your growth. I do not mean to infer this is an easy task it is very difficult without doubt but it’s absolutely necessary that we drop jealousy from our energy field as it will only serve to keep our vibration from rising and delay our happiness. The solution can usually be found within. Ask yourself what is the trigger and what is the wound? You can track it back to insecurities, fear of abandonment, inner child wounding or lack of self love. It will be a different wound for all of us only you will know what exact wound starts to bleed again when you see or hear something that makes you experience jealousy. Follow your intuition to see what steps you could take to help you clear that energy, I recommend Youtube as your first port of call for the many beautiful souls that put videos out to help the collective at no charge.

There is No Loss Ever: You Can Not Lose Your Real Twin Flame

Many many people are afraid to move on and cower when healers or readers tell them to walk away. They fear that if they did not spend their whole time obsessing over their connection and the separation and what their flame is thinking, feeling or doing then the connection disappears. Nothing could be further from the truth. If this person that you have in mind is in fact your twin flame then you will never ever be parted from them. You are infinitely connected in the 5D on a soul level you are the same. Suffering and loss can only be experienced in this realm as we have duality. Clearing your thoughts and blocking obsessive thinking will in fact ease the way for your Union as your start to allow Union rather than perpetuating the vibration of lack, absence or separation.

Focus on You!

As everything that is happening with your Twin Flame is a mirror, a Divine Mirror. This means that if your Twin Flame is choosing someone else it does mirror back to you on some level that you need to look internally and see if there are any ways in which you are overlooking yourself or not choosing yourself. Is there any areas of your life where you are not choosing yourself possibly ignoring your own happiness or pushing your own needs aside. If so go ahead and start to put your wants and needs first as much as you can. If you are making life choices that please your mother but its not what you want so gently change that. If you do too much for others because you don’t have strong and defined boundaries so go ahead and start to draw some boundaries. This is something you need to do for you and this is what you deserve, the right to live your own life how you believe is best. Secondarily being in this place where you are not expressing desires and certainly not having them met will mean you are nowhere near a vibration high enough to be approaching Union with your Twin Flame. Nurturing and loving yourself will benefit you on so many levels

The whole Twin Flame experience is a trigger to force you to level up so to speak to drop old trauma old baggage so make it so obvious and so unbearably painful sometimes that you take charge and take control and work to change and release all that is weighing you down. Even if you decide at any point you are all “twinned out” please, if this section of the post applies to you go ahead and look at yourself and see if you actually have healthy boundaries or not. One fantastic way to find out what your boundaries are is to list them, sit and write down your boundaries and see if any are missing. You may just find that you can’t list any.

Don’t Play Gooseberry: You Are The Third Wheel

Please take a deep breath and remember that everything I say to you is from a place of love. If your Twin Flame is in a relationship or marriage with someone else whether they were in this relationship when you met them or its a person they chose after meeting you and even though they were aware of your feelings then YOU ARE THE THIRD PARTY! Yes a thousand apologies but you are the third party trying to insert yourself between two people who have chosen to be together. This makes you the troublesome third party. From your perspective its an injustice right? Your Twin Flame, your ultimate lover didn’t choose you and has chosen someone else. They must be mistaken they must not be aware of the divine connection you two have. THIS IS NOT SO! These two people have chosen from their own free will to be together. You are the one on who believes that you are a better partner for your love interest. You must surrender to Divine Timing and the Divine Plan and trust because the Universe doesn’t work to our timing. Now let’s look at why they may have walked away from you and why it shouldn’t bother you in the slightest.

  • Your Twin Flame has free will – they can choose whoever they want and and decide not to complete their Twin Flame mission, like ever.
  • Your Twin Flame may not be doing their spiritual work- they could be left behind spiritually and still have a lot of work to do before they are ready to realise this connection.
  • Your Twin Flame is not aware- not aware or not awakened enough to be listening to their intuition, learning from soul lessons and doing their shadow work.
  • Your Twin Flame has karma still needing to be worked out – Karmic contacts may still be in play and they have lessons they need to learn with this soul before they are able to move forward.

Why You Should Not Worry About This:

  • Its says to the universe that you don’t trust it!
  • It shows you still have soul lessons to complete
  • It is an indication that you are not fully healed
  • Its reeks of lack of self love and self worth
  • It tells the Universe that you do not believe in yourself
  • It says that you are still vibrating in 3D
  • Its shows that you doubt yourself and your mission
  • It places a blockage to your mission and union and you are the one who put it there!


Trust Everything Is Unfolding For Your Highest Good

Trusting the Universe and your Higher Self is essential here. You must know that everything is unfolding for your highest good and that you created these soul contracts before your incarnation in order to experience things your soul needed to grow. Everyone involved is a soul mate of yours who has agreed to show up in your experience to aid you in releasing heavy energies. Any low vibrational emotions are a sign that you don’t trust that you dont believe and you feel this connection only on a 3D level. Know that these events are a catalyst for your transformation and when you start to see events that way you don’t attach any negative emotions to them and from a neutral state you can flow and allow which is make this transition much much easier.

A fantastic way to think about your Divine Counterpart being with another without becoming jealous is to imagine them as a cake, this is a very special cake and when you receive it it will be the best cake of your life but, and here is the but. This cake needs to be prepared by a baker who has the skills and tools to make and shape this cake into something that will delight you this cake can not be rushed. If this cake is given to you before time it will be raw or it would be dry or collapse in the middle. This cake needs to be allowed to cook in its own (divine) timing, while you await for your life changing cake please move away from the oven and get on with your life.


Remember above all this whole Twin Flame process is ultimately not about a romantic relationship with your Twin Flame, please trust me when i say that you will eventually get to a state where you will start to feel this as deep knowing in your soul. Getting closer to the Divine will be what your heart desires above anything. The Process is designed to trigger you to drop your heavy burden and become closer to the light and then go out and shine your light to the world as a beacon to light the way for others with or without your Twin Flame ( and yes they can decide that they want to remain comfortable in their 3D and remain there) please don’t dim your light you must let it shine, You have trained to do this over many many incarnations to do this and your being called to act now.


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When Twin Flame Love Turns to Obsession!

Welcome Dear Souls

I have been guided by Spirit to talk about the Twin Flame obsession. I have seen numerous examples in the last few weeks of obsessions in love relationships.Admittedly we are in the middle of the first Mercury Retrograde of 2019 so its really heightening the hidden energies around exes and old soul lessons that need to be released. It is really a difficult and painful lesson to learn and I want you to know I am not judging you at all. I would say its the most amount of heartbreak you ever will experience in a romantic relationship. Its a heartbreak like no other its turns your world from colour to grey, your laughter to constant tears and your evenings to sleepless nights spent reminiscing and wishing.

The object of your affection becomes a constant in your thoughts from thinking of them a few times a day to literally obsessing on them 24/7 , Did you find yourself checking their Whatsapp status and Facebook feed multiple times a day! Do you upload selfies to make sure they see you, hoping they click that like button?. Do you text them daily just to have any conversation with them Is it hard to sleep because you cant control your overthinking about the current situation. What else could you possibly do when you feel like your heart got physically ripped from your chest, you feel you would rather die then be without them. You cant make sense of it especially if you are embroiled in the Runner/Chaser dynamic. Your beloved just picked up and left your life with very little explanation and is unwilling to talk about the possibility of getting back together. You were happy and thought things were going well. You were visualising the happy future you saw with them meanwhile the love of your life was planning their escape.

If you are at this stage then I want you to know that its perfectly fine to feel sad and heartbroken for a while and you may even be suffering from Soul Shock (which we will cover this in a separate post). As you begin to heal you will be able to see clearer and there are a few steps you can take from this point.

Your external reality is created by your internal programming and subconscious beliefs.

Your twin flame puling away and putting an distance between you and them is an integral part of this divine journey. Your Twin Flame is your divine mirror they will reflect back to things that need healing in your conscious and subconscious. This pulling away will trigger deep wounds of abandonment, fear of rejection, loss and unworthiness. The initial reaction is to chase, reason and beg if needed to get the lover to return back to you so that you can once again feel worthy. Functioning this way is a massive mistake, putting your power and self worth in the hands of anyone else will have you forever in a hamster wheel where you will measure how lovable you are based on the way others treat you. But this is not what Spirit wants for you my Dear Ones, as you are being given a divine opportunity to heal and release them instead of carrying this trauma for the rest of your life and remaining trapped in the same negative cycles. A new face, a new relationship but the same events with the same outcome. This is the Divine way of bringing these issues to the surface and making it obvious to you that this an energetic pattern you need to heal. This is where your healing journey begins.

Why is it so important that we release these energies you might wonder? Why can I not just be in union with my Twin Flame because happiness with make me higher in vibration? Yes yes it will lift your vibration somewhat but the happy feeling will be short lived and conditional on the fact that your Twin Flame continues to make you happy via their actions. This fleeting happiness will not be able to override your subconscious beliefs, implants or programming, energetic trauma scars or being corded to morphic fields that are not serving your highest good. If somehow you did manage to come into union before finishing your shadow work and healing then you will find it a traumatic roller coaster of a relationship where you are constantly together and then apart. Your Twin may run to a karmic and add more pain and injury to your wounds. Its much kinder to your heart if you both separate to heal your individual wounds and remember that you are always connected in the 5D as you are both one half of the same soul.

Blessed ones you are destined to bring down the new templates and increase the love on the planet and aid Gaia in her ascension its impossible to while carrying trauma and other heavy energies . These dense energies can stem from childhood and even before in your numerous past lives. How do we carry over these beliefs and trauma patterns with us from past lives? well when they become subconscious we are not aware of them and what you are not aware of you can not address. When they go unaddressed then they take up permanent residence in your vibration you experience the same upheaval over and over in an attempt to allow you to transmute that energy.

Lets work through a simple example:

You don’t know why your romantic partners keep leaving you for someone else and so you move on from that relationship and heal your heart but the next partner you choose does the same and this happens until you you begin to say “all men are the same” or “no women can be trusted”. The wounding here is fear of abandonment and lack of self worth. The Twin Flame energy provides a divine mirror to show you how life can be better once you work through these energy blocks. I know its really hard to see it like this at first but please meditate on this and you will receive downloads that help you understand.

As you start to repair and reunite the fragmented parts of you and start to become whole this will be reflected in your external world and you are one step closer to Twin Flame Reunion.

Soul Contracts may need to still play out

Sometimes we meet our Twin Flame only briefly just to trigger the Twin Flame process then in most cases the Twins separate in order to do their healing with the idea being that when they finally do come back together they are both standing in a much higher place vibrationally and therefore both ready and able to be a guidance to others and help anchor the new earth template. It can happen that either of the Twins still have soul lessons that need to be learned and this can include one or both Twins being with further karmic partners in order to be fully ready for Twin Flame Union. This will be very hard to accept and understand. This connection is intense it’s like nothing ever before. This connection can be overwhelming for the Divine Masculine energy and sometimes they decide to run. Their task is to now open up to their intuition and realise that they are part of this journey and that it is time to step into their divinity. (there will be a post on this in future).

Obsessive behaviour originates in the Ego

At this point in the journey you would be forgiven for thinking you were just crazy and have become obsessed with someone and you can’t understand why you are losing your mind them unable to remove them from your heart no matter how hard you try.

Lets take a look at some examples of obsessive behaviour:

  • constant and intrusive communication…texts or media
  • becomes wrapped up in their love object ignoring or excluding others and responsibilities
  • need to control and often manipulate events to make sure the relationship is progressing in a way that pleases them.
  • the object of their affection is seen as a possession
  • contains elements of people pleasing so they would change their appearance, dress or habits just to ensure they other person does not leave.
  • emphasises saying “I Love You” to the point where if the phrase is not said fights and arguments will break out.

Twin Flame Connections tend to be:

  • Communication happens in the 5D in dreams and visions as well as deep feelings in the heart space
  • Love is unconditional between the Twins and they accept each other as they are.
  • they do not see each other as possessions or rather divine beings
  • they do not need to constantly emphasis love with words as the love is felt very very deeply .
  • keep no secrets from each other and value honesty

Anything that isn’t coming from Love is coming from fear the obsessive behaviour is stemming from you acting from your ego and not your soul guidance and intuition from your highest self. Does this make you a bad person? No, no it doesn’t the ego is where most of us live and conduct our day to day lives. The lesson we must master now Dear Ones is that when this kind of behaviour shows up in us we must examine why we react and behave like this. We must turn inwards and start to heal with the goal being that we no longer are triggered to act like this regardless of the actions of others or the events that are playing out around us.

The Power of Surrender ( letting go is hard to do).

This video is an excerpt from The Gift of Love music inspired by the love poems of Rumi ft Deepak Chopra and Coleman Barks, please download or listen for free on YouTube,

Surrender is essential to the Twin Flame process, to be in a state of surrender you must be in control of your ego. Ego doesn’t allow you to surrender it seeks control and validation while unconditional love (which is what we really are at our core) basks in the flow of well being and self love. So how will you know if you are in a state of surrender and not just saying that you are (because we have all done that and myself included ). These are your indicators:

  • You trust yourself to navigate your own life journey
  • You trust the Divine Plan knowing that the Divine always has your back
  • You relinquish any desire to control the connection
  • You cease trying to initiate communication
  • You stop blaming others for the way things have played out (i.e. karmic partner )
  • You love and validate yourself
  • You stand in your power
  • You take responsibility for your healing journey
  • You understand that your Twins happiness is your happiness even if that doesn’t include you at this time.
  • and you’re “ok” with that
  • you release feelings of anger and resentment completely
  • You do not fear losing your twin as you know you are forever connected in spirit in past lives and any future incarnations.
  • You realise whatever is happening in 3D unfolding according to a Divine plan
  • You come into union with yourself and this moves you towards union with you’re Twin

You just surrender to what is…..honestly I could write forever on these topics as they are so deep and I will be doing a much longer post on all them in the near future.

The Goal is to come into Union with Yourself and the Divine.

While most of us grew up in a home with religious programming it seems there is still an illusion of separation.In a way this Twin Flame journey has the most blessed outcome of finally bridging that gap. .A personal invitation from the Divine to realise a personal relationship one on one. The trigger that caused you to search for the Divine was meeting and losing your Twin, this combined with the numerous signs and symbols your guardian angels are sending you will certainly help you realise (not to mention that complete inner knowing) that this has been divinely orchestrated by a Divine who truly loves you and that you are here to fulfil the Divine mission. That love is all there is, ever has been and ever will be. You will realise that the happiness and contentment you were seeking in previous romantic relationships were pale in comparison to connection with the Divine. 3D romance is only a cheap imitation of Divine Love. Simply put your Twin Flame Journey is the vehicle that has been used to upgrade you, purify your heart, expand your consciousness, Your Twin was sent to challenge you to awaken you to shake you out of your comfort zone and onto a spiritual path (and ultimately to ascension) and that the chain of events is being orchestrated by your higher self and your light team of angels following the plan of Spirit to do what is needed to anchor the Divine Love template onto Gaia.

Know that you are unconditionally loved and guided at all time Dear Ones

As stated I really could write reams and reams explaining all these points in much more depth and shortly I will do just that. I hope I have been able to help shed some light on this very difficult transition in the Twin Flame Journey. Leave a comment and let me know your experiences.

Our universe grants every soul a twin-
a reflection of themselves -the kindred spirit – And no matter where they are or how far away they are from each other- even if they are in different dimensions, they will always find one another. This is destiny; this is love.

June Dillon

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